The one thing that was an absolute must was the upper cupboards had to go all the way to the ceiling. That said, it was the most difficult part. Nobody makes them that tall, they have to be custom made. They are almost finished and they are wonderful, perfect, and beautiful. The only hardware is the soft close hinges. The perfect pull has not been located for either the drawers or doors. No worries.
The backsplash was always to be subway tile. I just not realize that there are 60 million sizes of subway tile. It was like a giant jigsaw with mostly the same shape. What I thought was going to be easiest part of the tile backsplash, wasn't. Now it is done and I am ecstatic.